Overcoming Bad Relationships ~ Self Esteem
1. I only have my mother who I would call family – I have no brothers and sisters. I also do not have a huge social group. My mother can be quite difficult and often behaved like a child ( I feel bad saying this but it’s true) and is often over emotional and confrontational when we are alone or around other people. As this is so I don’t feel comfortable introducing a potential partner to her in the short term and I also feel like there is no one to ‘vet’ the prospective partner – what can I do alternatively. Also and contrasting – my track record has been bad in terms of past relationships (there have been lots though I have never been disloyal or unkind) and I have in the past been a huge drinker and feel like of somebody looked in to my past they would think I was unsuitable for a relationship even though I am changing and improving myself and have lots of great qualities (I read lots, love to discuss ideas, love to cook, do yoga etc). How do I broach my past without putting myself down?
2. Hello Lenon. What was the first thing that got you interested in your wife when you two met the first time? i think you said, you noticed her (sexy 😀 ) bald head, ..was it the outer appearance that got you interested in the first place?
3. Hi Ayida and Lenon. I have been watching your youtube videos since almost a year now and I have been loving it : thank you for being such an inspiring example of a family unit!
I had a question about child rearing. What kind of entertainment / games do you allow to your babies or toddler to have. You must have chosen them to be educational, protective of their minds and inspiring. But how do you choose ?
And do you allow them to watch cartoons? Hear songs made for children by others?
Can you give some examples of the videos or games you give or even create for your children?
Do you analyze every game or video before giving them to your child ?
From what I’ve seen Lenon is quite used to analyzing what “lies in plain sight” in mass media 🙂 but it can be overwhelming for me sometimes, I don’t always know if I should suspect even the seemingly most “innocent” popular video for children of having a bad influence, plus I am not an expert in children psychology, and I wouldn’t want my future babies to be manipulated in a negative way by my fault without knowing it. I don’t have any right now but I m prepping to be the best mother I can be.
Another thing is that me and my husband will certainly have a job when having our future children ie we won’t be able to be there all the time with our children. I would love to be able to home school, but we’ll certainly have to entrust them to other people or schools. We will do our best to make the best choice regarding those people. But we won’t be in control of every influence our children will have.
What you suggest to make up for the difference when we are not with them?
Grand parents even though they are not perfect?
4. I have a question. When you are moving forward and meeting someone new touching on what you spoke on during the conference do we have to tell our new potential mate about our past abuse/trauma or move forward with a clean slate and not say anything?
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